My X and I had a wonderful life together. No perfect but pretty damn good. It all started about a year ago. He started getting texts from a girl from work. I am calling her a girl because he is 47 and she is 26. The first few texts that I noticed from her were pictures of her ferrets. She is trying to be a grown ass woman why would you dress your ferrets up and send pics to a work friend? She would send texts to him 'goodnight'. I ignored them. I thought maybe they were just friends. What ever?!
I became suspicious. I looked at his FB messages. There were messages from her on his phone saying 'I think I sent a message to your gmail'. He started putting strange things on his FB like 'hotel sex' postings?! Alarms were going off in my head! PEOPLE NEVER IGNORE THE ALARMS IN YOUR HEAD! I confronted him with my suspicions. He told me nothing was going on. He referred to her as a 'fatal attraction' and that he needed to put an end to it. He didn't put an end to it. Willie started withdrawing from the relationship. Left for work early. Came home late. I had to answer to the children all of the questions "where's dad"?
Willie agreed to go to counseling. We went for about 9 sessions. Willie always made promises. He said he loved me. Said the skank (this is the word I will use to refer to the new GF from now on) meant nothing to him. We had a few of these sessions where we would talk about what we would do to make the relationship better. Willie would provide lip service but never the actions to back it up. Willie admitted to a inappropriate relationship with the skank but nothing physical had happened. He blamed me for everything that was wrong with the relationship from me wanting to get a dog to me making more money than him and that being with a younger girl who made no money made him feel more like a man than being with me a successful woman with a career being! Oh did I mention that the skank offered to pay for his rent and him and also offered to take care of his kids???? ...BS I should have kicked his worthless ass out then. But no I wanted to make it work for the children.
Found out that in Oct, after my sister in laws funeral that he met up with the skank at the mall so that the two of them could take his daughter to the mall birthday shopping. Willie told his poor daughter not to tell me because I was jealous! Wonder why?!? I found this out several months later from his daughter.
Everything exploded on my birthday. Went to hang out with family, Willie was supposed to come and hang and have cake with us. Got a text stating that he had to work later than he expected and wouldn't be able to make it. I go to the mall and there is the skank not in work clothes~ did I mention that they both work at Apple? ~ just kinda hanging around the store. I see her and say Skank can you go and get Willie for me? She runs to the back and never comes back out. Soon after Willie comes out and says "H what are you doing?" We go out to the parking lot and have it out unfortunately it is in front of our children who are in the car. I tell him to get the F8#$ out of my house! That night he drops his kids off at his ex wife's house and tells his ex wife that I kicked him out and that he would probably be moving in with the skank.
This is the realization that I had to come to before I could let him go. Really not sure I ever 'had' this man to begin with. The only person he is capable of loving is himself. Doesn't even love his children enough to put their needs before his own.
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